The Caillete Callective

That one time I was engaged to a man 😂

Lots of survivors reading this know what it's like to be trying our VERY best to function in the world...& to STILL get sh*t on by people— sometimes even our family— for "not trying hard enough."

"They" don't know what you're up against or how hard ANY of this for you.

To this date this is one of my favorite pieces. And every time we post it we get an overwhelming response from two very different groups of people.

Every time we share this image, we hear from trans youth and their family/supporters who say this message (and messages like it) saved their lives. That’s not hyperbole, it’s a reflection of how overwhelmingly lonely it can be to be a transgender person in the world right now.

They see this and they know it says “Hey q***r friend, we see you. We want you safe, housed, and nourished by friends. We respect you and we believe you when you say who you are. And if you’re not sure who you are we will give you lots of kindness while you grow. We just wanna see you grow- for many many years.”

Trans kids, you are loved.
Grown ups who once were trans kids, you are loved.
Grown ups who didn’t get to know they were trans kids, you are loved.
Parents, teachers, faith leaders, and doctors out there supporting trans kids, you are loved too.

Visible allyship saves lives.🏳️‍⚧️

There’s this bizarre set of folks out there who see this and confuse it with an intent to harm. They are so confused and misinformed, say were abus1ng trans youth. They call us ped0s. They say this is gr00ming.

Every time we post this sweet design we hear from them. And they are loud.

I’m gonna say this one time real clear for those folks: if you cannot tell the difference between sharing a picture of flowers telling kids they’re loved and predatory behavior, I beg you: STAY AWAY FROM CHILDREN.

I’m truly sorry you conflate healthy love with abuse. But if you do want kids safe as much as you say you do, stay away from them.

Messaging our team your crazy ped0 fantasies is not the path to healing from your trauma. And it will never stop us from sharing this message.

Nothing ever will.

So back off. Stop bullying trans kids. Stop targeting the adults who support them. Stop pretending you want to help.

Grow up. Learn some boundaries. Get some therapy or crawl back into the muck you came from.

And let these kids receive messages of love.