Pleasure Eating Process

I notice that when a client is afraid to feel its sometimes because they think the feeling means something about them.

So the attempts to avoid feeling is to avoid what they think it means about them.

If we feel sad, anger, fear or despair these feelings themselves are often very manageable to process,

It’s the story we create about ourselves in relation to this feelings that adds to suffering.

When we simply let go of the meaning and feel the sensation we are free.

Free to explore a life where we experience feelings without being lead by them.

Feeling Circle is a space to practice the skill of witnessing feelings without over identifying with them so that they process and we experience more freedom as a result.

My body appeases you to survive.

Because somewhere along the way, it learned that approval meant safety and disapproval meant danger.

So I notice the constriction in my throat.
The tightness in my chest.
The compulsion to shape-shift, soften myself, over-explain, or abandon my truth to keep connection.

And instead of judging myself for fawning, I get to pause.

I get to remind my body that it is safe. Even if I noticed stories in my mind that say otherwise. 

And that I have choice in how I want to show up in a connection. 
In doing so I show my body that connection does not need to mean self-abandonment.

Feeling Circle is a space to practice this.

It’s a space to slow down enough to notice the constriction, the urge to appease, the impulse to disappear.

And instead of automatically fawning, we practice staying present with sensation.

And expressing our truth.

Because healing isn’t becoming someone who never fawns.

It’s learning how to lovingly notice the response and from there choosing how you respond to it. 🤍