Art by Emba

Anyone that we let into our lives must one day leave it, so we should focus on the time we have with each other in between those finite bookmarks and fill them with as many pages as possible.

And even though we so often lose touch along the way, that doesn’t mean the end still doesn’t sting. It has to. At least, if the person meant anything to you. And Donna Jean Godchaux sure did mean something to me. She was my bandmate and she was my friend. So I loved her.

I first met Donna in 1971 and it didn’t take long before we invited her to join the band. She was very much woven into the Dead’s tie-dyed tapestry during the ‘70s — and some of those years remain my all-time favorite of the Grateful Dead. Which means that some of my favorite music that I ever made with the Grateful Dead was made with Donna.

In the world of Deadheads, Donna’s history often got lost, but it’s important to note that her career didn’t begin with the Grateful Dead. Nor was she on stage with us just because her husband was our keyboardist.

Donna came to us with a pretty incredible resume and we all knew her voice already from the radio. That’s her on “When a Man Loves a Woman” by Percy Sledge. And that’s her with Elvis on “Suspicious Minds.”

After cutting her teeth as a session singer in Memphis, she became a member of the legendary Muscle Shoals collective over at FAME Studios in Alabama and she sang on so many of those iconic recordings. So the legacy that she leaves behind goes far beyond her service in the Grateful Dead.

But none of that is what I’m thinking about today. Instead, I’m replaying so many scenes of friendship, of growing pains, of the ups and downs of a decade’s worth of adventures, of inside jokes that may have gotten lost to time but whose warm feeling remains inside my mind and my heart forever.

Which is where a part of her will live now, too. I’m sending love to her family, to my extended family, and to all of you.

Donna, may your body rest in peace and your spirit soar, as the four winds do their thing. Love will accompany you every step of that infinite journey — and not fade away.

family portrait 🧑‍🧑‍🧒‍🧒💛