ADHD with Angie

I miss the days when it was embarrassing to aggressively give opinions on things you don't comprehend.
Commenting on trauma you don't understand just exposes your lack of education.
If you aren't here to learn or support, you’re free to go.

This week, I’ve shared some video shorts that are trauma-informed, coming from my lived experience & are a tiny snapshot of a much bigger picture.
But right on cue, some people marched into the comments demanding an explanation.
Truth 💣: Demanding a breakdown of a stranger's trauma is not something you are entitled to.

Also, there's a massive difference between genuine curiosity & performative condescension. You are always welcome to ask questions from a real place of wanting to understand an experience different from your own. But if you're using condescending language disguised as "just asking questions" - trust me, you aren't fooling anyone.

As a Certified Coach, I always look at the behavior underneath the behavior. When people troll a survivor's page, it usually fits into one of three behavioral patterns:

Pattern 1: Reacting Without Reading. Their executive function is in the gutter. They saw a headline, missed the nuance & let a knee-jerk emotional reaction do the typing.

Pattern 2: The Flying Monkey Effect. A real psychological concept where enablers defend an abuser. They see their own fragile family dynamic mirrored in my content & lash out to protect it by fishing for details to invalidate me.

Pattern 3: Trauma Litigation. They play dumb & demand the survivor explain "the other side's perspective," trying to force a victim to litigate their pain in a public comment section.

🚫 My page is a zero-tolerance zone for enablers. It is not a debate floor for people who lack basic empathy or education on emotional abuse.

This space is for truth-tellers, ADHDers, Scapegoats, cycle-breakers & trauma survivors. 🧠 🐐

If you don’t connect to my story or care to understand it, you are completely free to keep scrolling. You do not need to understand my boundaries to respect them.

The exit is free. Move along. ✌️

One of the most damaging things a narcissistic parent does is assume malicious intent.

They don't see ADHD symptoms.
They see disrespect.

You forgot something?
🔸 You must not care.
You're overwhelmed?
🔸 You must be lazy.
You're emotionally dysregulated?
🔸 You must be dramatic or manipulative.
You need support?
🔸 You must be selfish.

A healthy parent gets curious.
A narcissistic parent gets offended.
Because everything revolves around them.

Instead of asking: "What's making this difficult for my child?"
They ask: "Why are they doing this to me?"

That's why so many ADHD children grow up believing they have character flaws instead of executive function challenges.
The symptoms were never the problem.
The problem was having a parent who interpreted every struggle as a personal attack on their authority.

And after years of being blamed, criticized & misunderstood, many ADHD adults still carry an internalized critic that sounds suspiciously similar to that parent.

Not because the accusations were true.
But because they heard them often enough to mistake them for truth.

The thing is - most ADHD children weren't defiant.
They were overwhelmed.
And those are not the same thing. 🧠 🐐