The Cailleach Way

You are safe with me.

And I also understand if that isn’t something you can fully feel or trust right away. Trust is personal, and sometimes there are parts of our experiences, histories, and identities that can only be truly understood by people who have walked a similar path.

I want you to know that I support your desire to spend time in spaces where you feel deeply seen, understood, accepted, and at home. Even if those spaces don’t include me. That isn’t something I take personally, nor do I see it as a rejection. Sometimes it’s simply about being with people who share a common experience, and I can honor that.

What matters most to me is that you feel safe, loved, supported, and free to be yourself. It is not your job to protect my feelings, manage my insecurities, or make choices based on what would make me most comfortable. I care about you too much to ask that of you.

Of course, I hope there will be times when you want to share space with me, because I genuinely enjoy your presence and value our connection. But more than that, I want you to be surrounded by people and communities that nourish you, uplift you, and remind you that you belong.

Whatever spaces help you heal, grow, laugh, breathe easier, and feel more fully yourself; I want that for you. And if there is room for me in that journey, I will be grateful. If there are moments when you need something different, I will understand that too.

You don’t have to choose between taking care of yourself and taking care of my feelings. Choose yourself. I’ll be okay.