Murphy Therapy LLC

You know that deep breathing is good for you and whatever, but if it's ever felt hard to "just breathe" here are three ways to guide your breath to regulate yourself.

"Life's not fair, is it?"

I can't see the word "fair" without thinking of Scar in the Lion King.

When we're kids, it can be simpler to figure out what is fair.

You had a turn, now it's my turn. That's fair.
I got to cut the piece of cake in two, then you got to choose which piece you wanted. That's fair.

As adults, we still value this idea of fairness, but it gets a whole lot more complicated to figure out what IS fair, especially when it comes to figuring out how to spend our time and run our households.

Eve Rodsky gamifies the division of necessary life tasks in order to preserve what she calls "unicorn space" - that magical time where you connect with the things, people, or activities that bring you joy and help you feel like you.

If you can't remember the last time that you did something that wasn't work,
if you want a concrete framework for tackling what has felt perpetual and impossible,
if you and your partner are ready to change the game,
check out Fair Play.

If being critical was the best way to achieve inner peace, I wouldn't have a job.

Self-criticism frankly seems to be the enemy of inner peace. The majority of my clients who grapple with it find it distracting and demoralizing, not this motivating force that we somehow expect it to be.

Notice the questions that you're asking yourself.

Are they critical?
- "Am I good enough?"
- "What's wrong with me?"
- "Why can't I handle this?"

Or compassionate?
- "What is good for me?"
- "What is tough about this moment?"
- "What do I need in order to handle this?"

Shift your questions, and you'll shift your relationship with your circumstances, yourself, and the present moment.