Anna Gonowon Coaching

I'm all for fighting for relationships, expressing yourself, and seeking clarity.

However, after coaching thousands of people, I've seen how relationship disconnections can make people consider unusual actions.

Before doing or saying anything, stop and try to focus on doing something else and talk to a licensed mental health professional.

If you keep having the same fight over different topics, the key question question is not “Who is right?”

It’s "What's the pattern here?"

Maybe you brought up a concern, they heard criticism, they defended, you pushed harder, they shut down, and the original issue never got solved.

The pattern matters because it shows why the same fight keeps coming back with different topics.

This is the kind of work we'll do in my 8-week Communication and Conflict Patterns cohort.

We look at the actual order of the conflict, identify each person’s role in it, and build a clearer process for hard conversations so you’re not having the same argument every month with new details.

P. S. I'm multi-tasking by recording this video and finishing my face mask from Beauty of Joseon.

Help! Plant People, can you recommend any plant growers who can ensure they're sending healthy plants in good condition?

I'm looking for sampaguita and calamansi.

I bought 4 sampaguitas (Maid of Orleans Jasmine) from a grower with good reviews. However, all 4 plants arrived in terrible condition, dead/dying, with nematodes, and having root rot and root damage.

If you want the name of the grower, DM me.

But I'm just trying to move forward and getting healthy, beautiful sampaguitas, which will be the centerpiece of my Filipino inspired front yard at our farmhouse.

Someone great has to be out there!! ❤️❤️❤️

When someone betrays you, don't argue over the wrong question.

The question isn't “Should I be over this by now?”

The question is "What would need to be true for me to feel safe in trusting again?“

Trust isn't promises, pressure, or the betrayer being tired of consequences.

In my July class on Betrayal and Trust Reconstruction, we’re getting specific about what breaks trust, what makes it worse, what has to change, and how to tell the difference between pretty words and real action.

More details to come to sign up for the class.