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It’s not your fault. 💛
If picky eating in your house feels like a personal failure, pediatric dietitian Danielle Zold wants you to hear this loud and clear: it’s not.
Picky eating is almost never one thing. It’s a mix of appetite, skill, comfort, digestion, and even nutrient levels — all tangled together differently for every kid. Once you see it as a puzzle instead of a behavior problem, everything gets a little less stressful.
Danielle Zold, RD, pediatric dietitian and founder of Nourished Pediatrics, joins this week’s episode of Kids These Days 🎙️
Link in bio to listen 🎧
07/13/2026
Swap one single word to instantly end your next parent-teen power struggle. 🛑💬
Think about how most arguments with your teenager go. They want to do something, or they are expressing an intense emotion, and you respond with: “I know you’re tired, BUT you still have to do your chores.” “I get that you’re stressed about finals, BUT you cannot yell at me.”
It seems reasonable, right? But to a teenager’s highly sensitive, reactive nervous system, the word “BUT” acts as an emotional eraser. The second they hear that word, their brain completely deletes the first part of your sentence. They experience it as a total rejection of their reality, their defenses spike, and you are instantly locked in a power struggle.
In Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), we teach a core concept that can save your sanity: Two seemingly opposite things can be entirely true at the exact same time.
This is the power of the Dialectic. Your teen can be genuinely exhausted, and the expectation to help the family remains. They can be completely overwhelmed by finals, and they still need to treat you with respect.
To bridge the gap between empathy and structure, all you have to do is trade your “BUT” for an “AND”. 🤝🧠
Try these flipped scripts tonight:
❌ “I love you, but your behavior is unacceptable.” “I love you deeply, AND this behavior cannot happen in our house.”
❌ “I know you’re mad at your sister, but you can’t hit.” “I know you are furious with your sister right now, AND hitting is not allowed.”
When you replace “but” with “and,” you validate their internal emotional experience while simultaneously upholding your parental boundary. Defenses go down because they feel heard, allowing you to stay the anchor of the home.
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Two-thirds of couples get less happy after having a baby. Here’s what protects the other third. 👶
This isn’t an opinion — it’s research. John Gottman and colleagues followed newlywed couples for six years, tracking them through the transition to parenthood (Shapiro, Gottman & Carrère, 2000, Journal of Family Psychology).
The well-known finding: most couples experience a real decline in relationship satisfaction after baby #1.
The less-talked-about finding: what protected the couples who didn’t decline wasn’t an easier baby, more money, or more sleep.
It was the husband’s engagement.
Specifically — his fondness toward his wife, his awareness of her experience, and his awareness of what was happening in the relationship. When that was present, satisfaction held steady or even improved. When he became negative, disengaged, or disappointed in the marriage, satisfaction dropped sharply.
This isn’t about one partner being “good” and the other “bad.” Becoming parents disorients everyone. But it does tell us something: relationships don’t survive this transition by accident. They survive because someone keeps turning toward the other person, even when everyone is exhausted and underslept.
If you’re in this season right now and you can feel the distance growing between you and your partner — that’s not a red flag about your relationship. It’s a sign you’re exactly where this research says couples get the most vulnerable. And it’s also the best time to get support.
🔗 If you’re navigating this stage, I’d love to help. Consult link in bio.
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1120 Delaware Street. Suite 110
Denver, CO
80204
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| Monday | 8am - 7pm |
| Tuesday | 8am - 7pm |
| Wednesday | 8am - 7pm |
| Thursday | 8am - 7pm |
| Friday | 8am - 7pm |
