The Work Between Words

Something I’m really leaning into right now is not stepping into the spaces other people want to pull me into.

If you’re in a dysregulated space, if you’re moving from chaos or projection, I’m not meeting you there.

I’m not shrinking, bending, or contorting myself to match energy that doesn’t belong to me.

I’m choosing to stay rooted in my alignment.
In my truth.
In my breath.
In the ground I’ve fought hard to build.

Because I know who I am.

I’m a good person.
With good intentions.
I’m responsible.
I’m kind.
I’m honest.
I’m accountable.
I’m humble.
I own my s**t.
I work on my s**t.
And I’m not afraid of my s**t.

How someone else chooses to see me is their mirror, not my reflection.

I’m not here to prove myself.
I’m here to live for myself.
Fully. Unapologetically. Unshakably.

I had a heavy session with a client today.

This was what I kept coming back to. I was rooted in it.

I refused to waver, even when my client was dysregulated. Instead, I grounded deeper.

And in that grounding, the space (both figuratively and physically) held steady. It allowed the necessary emotion to release, just enough for us to move through some really heavy stuff together.

What struck me most was the act itself. The act of not wavering. The act of loving so fully that I wouldn’t step away from our goal. The act of trusting her, trusting myself, and trusting the space we had built.

It truly was one of the most powerful sessions I’ve ever experienced.

When you love someone so much you are willing to have the uncomfortable conversations.

When you love someone so much you are willing to sit in discomfort in order to support their growth.

When you love someone so much you are willing to invest in them even when it looks messy or doesn't make sense.

When you love someone so much you are willing to do all the things... just remember that is probably because noone showed up for you this way and part of you is still healing all of those wounds for you too.

✨ Unpopular Opinion: ✨

Being a grandma is a privilege, not a right.

If my daughter sets a boundary or a rule for her kids, I respect it. Period.

I don’t get to say, “Well, at grandma’s house we do things differently.”
I don’t get to override her choices just because I’ve raised kids before.
I don’t get to make myself the exception.

Why?
Because I’m not the parent.

My job as a grandparent is to love, support, and reinforce the foundation my child is building for her children. Not sabotage it.

If I disrespect her boundaries, I risk not only damaging my relationship with her… but losing the privilege of being in my grandchildren’s lives at all.

I’d rather honor her rules than end up in court fighting for “grandparents’ rights.”
I’d rather model respect than sneak snacks or break rules behind her back.
I’d rather protect our bond than play power games.

Grandparents who ignore their children’s parenting boundaries?
That’s wild to me.

💭 What do you think .... should grandparents always follow the parents’ rules?

Some of you aren't ready for this conversation!

It's LESS about TELLING kids what to do and MORE about SHOWING them what to do!