Robyn Allred Coaching

We all have lessons in our lives.

Sometimes we learn the lesson quickly.

Other times, the lesson seems repeated and we are given the opportunity to learn again.

Some of my hardest lessons have come from a tough teacher. Meaning I had to make a decision with a person in my life that was crossing my boundaries in one way or another.

With some of these people, I started responding differently and took charge of myself to control any emotions that came up. With a little time, these “tough teachers” in my life responded differently as well.

It’s incredibly freeing to not get upset at people like I used to.

I know I don’t have to.

It’s fun to see the lessons I’ve learned and how much I have improved with controlling my anger, frustration, resentment, anxiety, and judgement.

My patience has come a long way as I stopped taking everything so personally.

When strong emotions come up write them out on paper. It’s helpful to take time each day to write out your thoughts.
Don’t judge them.
Just get them out of your head and onto paper.

I’ve spent the past several months spending time with my family and working with my kids. One of my girls was getting ready to serve a mission for our church for the next 18 months and I felt prompted to strengthen my relationships with my other kids so I put other things on pause.

One of the movies my kids have always enjoyed is Disney’s Lilo and Stitch. We watched the live action version and no surprise, they liked it. Watching it at home months later, one part stuck out to me more than before although I know this is a big part of the movie. The quote about O’hana.
It says, “O’hana means family and family means no one gets left behind or forgotten.”

This struck me after spending so much time with my family and kids. I know I cannot control my kids but I can control myself and my actions.
Since I have been coaching for the past 5 years, I have worked hard on my own past experiences and how they affect me today and learning to let go and focus on my current experiences and how I want my future to look.
Turning back to O’hana, I worked hard to express my love to my kids and husband. I love them unconditionally and it’s so important to me that they understand that.

They know I love them as I have let go of trying to force what I thought the “happy family” looked like. I accept them for who they are now in their messy life experiences. We go through this life together and reach out in love always checking in with each other.

This is my O’hana that I have created with my husband because we never want our family to feel forgotten or left behind.

With summer here and the kids out of school it can be a time to relax and enjoy the warmer weather, take vacations, or spend time with family and friends.

We’ve done several different kinds of summers.

The summers that seem to run the most smooth are the ones where we make a list of things we want to do as a family. Everyone has a say and gets to choose something.

Our daily routine:
Read a chapter book 30 minutes
Straighten bedroom
clean up breakfast mess
Laundry on your day
30 minute show
Summer fun activity
Quiet time 60 minutes- no screens
Dinner
Family movie or game night

We set goals to work on each week. Four categories to keep them focused
Spiritual
Intellectual
Physical
Social

Kids can add on more areas if they want

It’s helpful to set the goals and write them down keeping them in a visible area. Marking the goals off each day and at the end of the week, evaluate how we did. Maybe the next weeks goals need to be adjusted or set new ones.

All along the way we’re working on controlling our emotions and doing physical activities