Rachel Skye

Have you ever felt unnoticed, unseen or unappreciated? Maybe by your boss, a co-worker, your partner, friend or family member? How damn frustrating or lonely does that feel?!

That's what we're going to be talking about in this month's Fierce Woman's Circle. When you're the one keeping the whole thing together at work or at home, and no one notices until something breaks–what's that costing you?

The Fierce Woman's circle is a monthly in-person gathering for women who are done shrinking, done waiting and done performing a version of themselves that’s easier for everyone else to handle.

Every month we go deep on one theme. Honest conversation. Embodied movement. The kind of raw, real talk that most rooms are too scared to make space for.

This is not a networking event. Not a book club. Not another thing you leave feeling vaguely inspired and completely unchanged.

It's a room full of women who are serious about getting out of their own effin way.

Join the circle on Wednesday, June 17 from 7-8:30pm.
📍 Urban Arts House, 430 W Orange St, Lancaster
🎟 $30 (1 seat) or $50 bring a friend (two seats, save $10)

Check the 1st comment for the link to sign up. 👇

They called me intimidating. I called it a Tuesday.
There's nothing wrong with your energy. Here's what's actually going on...

You've been told your whole life that your energy is "a lot." Too direct. Too opinionated. Too confident. Too loud. And somewhere in between all that feedback, you started wondering...is my intensity actually a problem?

It's not. But nobody told you that.

Listen. I’ve had people avoid me like I walk around with a sword in one hand and a mirror in the other. Case in point: A friend of mine wanted to introduce me to his girlfriend. She stalked my Instagram and decided I was “too intimidating” to meet.

Girl, what?! I’m 5’ nothing. I live in stretchy pants, talk to my plants, and cry during really emotional romcom scenes. But yes, I also have a strong voice, bold energy and zero time for small talk about the weather. If someone’s nervous system can’t handle a little power in a crop top, that’s a them thing.

🤔Here’s what I’ve come to realize: when people say you’re intimidating, what they actually mean is, “You make me feel small, and I don’t know how to regulate my insecurity in your presence.”

Let me say it louder for the people in the back:
✨ Confidence doesn’t intimidate secure people—only insecure ones. ✨

Same goes for dating. There were times I wondered, “Why is this so effin' hard?” A lot of men saw me, felt my energy, and tapped tf out. Not because I was mean, but because I didn’t shrink to fit the room.

I've been in rooms with people who had serious "don't mess with me" energy. A past boss. A clinical director I interviewed with. Both had a presence that could've made me shake in my boots but I didn't flinch. I stayed in my energy. And after the interview, the clinical director looked me dead in the eye and said: "I like your energy."

When you don't back down from confident people, something magical happens. You realize they're not scary. They're just strong. And strength recognizes strength.

So if someone calls you intimidating, take it as a freaking compliment. What they really mean is:
→ “You seem to like yourself and I don’t know how to do that yet.”
→ “You take up space and I’ve been trained to shrink.”
→ “You radiate realness and I’m still hiding.”

You are not here to dial it down so others feel comfortable in your presence. You are not a dimmer switch. You are the sun. Shine on, babe. Let ‘em squint.😎