RISE

Codependency is an adaptive behavior learned when our environment forced us to empathize in order to survive.

Maybe it looked something like this —

- Tapping into others’ experience helped you gauge your own level of safety.

- Finding the understanding to validate someone else helped them feel safe which in turn made you feel accepted and safe.

- Caring about others’ well-being meant you were rewarded.

Empathizing in itself is truly a superpower. To be able to relate to people so deeply and truly feel what their feeling is proof of our profound ability to connect.

But when it comes from a survival-based place, we lose sight of ourselves in the process and it becomes solely about the other person.

It creates stress in our body, and we feel panicked, tense, resentful.

That’s when empathy becomes codependency.

Breaking this pattern down starts in the body, and brings us to a place where we can still connect with others’ experience… but not because we HAVE TO.

Simply because we want to.

This is one topic we’re exploring in my upcoming masterclass series, Reclaim: Healing Heartbreak and Redefining Love.

Your ability to empathize, feel and exercise your sensitivity is great. Learn how to harness it. This is when all kinds of relationships can really take off.

Link in bio for more ✨

The world needs your light. YOU need your light. But the light can be weird and uncomfortable and scary and 😖😖

When we have been taught our entire lives ⤵️
- Don’t go against the grain
- Prove your worth
- Fight for love
- Conform to fit in.............

Embracing and showing our uniqueness feels like a total Hell No from our bodies.

Even if in our minds, we have big dreams, big plans, big beautiful desires.... it still feels completely unsafe and wrong to make them happen. Shining that Light is not an option.

This is literally the Nervous System protecting us from perceived pain. It’s survival. Which is pretty fascinating.... but not always helpful.

Establishing a consistent practice that brings you deeper into the body can help shift those patterns, create the safety and uncover the confidence you need to let that Light shine 🌟

You don’t need approval from others. You don’t need to work yourself into the ground. You don’t need permission.

All you need is you ✨✨

Doing *the work* doesn’t make you happy.

What makes you happy is the sense of safety and trust that you establish by showing up for yourself again and again.

Movement
Meditation
Breathwork
Journaling

It all creates a strong and reliable Self Support System, a container within yourself, in which you can firmly hold all of your emotions and experiences.

And that container grows through your consistency. You can hold uncomfortable emotions, recognize triggers.... and not feel so controlled by them anymore. Over time, the container grows so big, that the old patterns become small in comparison. You have room to access Joy, Ease, Abundance, Love.

It’s ALL within you. And that is beautiful. Your capacity to be with all of it, and feel peace, is massive.

Just keep showing up ✨

Something happens along the healing journey.

You start to do the work. You are meditating, you are moving your body, you are so in tune with your breath, your self-awareness is expanding.

And then come the pings and moments of really GOOD feelings, right? Like, buzzing, floating, so so filled with joy 💫

And you start to think that there is this version of you that feels this way ALL THE TIME, and you MUST become that person.

So, when a bad mood strikes, it’s even more triggering.

When a bad day comes through, it’s even more unacceptable.

Honestly, it’s exhausting and confusing - because why are you doing all of this work, to feel anything other than drunk with joy 24/7?

Here’s the big secret - You Are Human, and your journey is never linear.

But if you want joy, love, abundance and ease, you have to TRUST 👏🏼 YOURSELF 👏🏼 and trust that you deserve it, no matter what.

When you can be right in the thick of a sh*tty day and say to yourself — I feel this, and I still trust I am worthy, I still trust that all of my desires are coming to me — your faith becomes stronger than any emotion you experience.

Affirmations for you to use when the mood strikes ⤵️

✨I trust myself and all that comes
✨I surrender to this experience and open myself to Divine guidance
✨I am open to receiving all I desire
✨My emotions are temporary. Love and abundance are eternal. I am open to receive that Truth.
✨I am worthy and deserving. I am worthy and deserving. I am worthy and deserving.

Which of these resonate with you most? How can you soften more deeply into self trust and faith?