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Interesting understanding about Santa! I think we all, in some way may need that space where we believed in something, even if it ended. It offers an important opportunity to expand our thinking, and believe in something outside of us, and bigger than ourselves. But it is ok for that to change. Here is what the field is collectively saying. ~Laura

ℹ️🌿 AM I EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE? |

Emotional availability is what helps us connect, empathize, and be present with others - in a way that builds intimacy. Emotional intimacy is what we all need in relationships, to feel nourished, and fulfilled. When we are in relationships that lack emotional intimacy, we feel achey, empty and sad.

If you’ve been in relationships that lack emotional intimacy or if you’ve been with someone who is emotionally unavailable [or are drawn to that kind of person], it may be helpful to look at your part in the dynamic, first.

We often attract what is most similar to us, or familiar to us. The good news is that when we notice ways we may be avoiding intimacy, we can start doing the work to make a shift- and then bring more depth into our relationships. And/or attract others who have more capacity to develop richer relationships.

Read the Full Article: https://integrativepsych.co/new-blog/am-i-emotionally-unavailable



📷: unknown, quote: Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Seven of the most frequently misused psychological terms Mental health professionals list certain psychological terms as the most frequently misconstrued and misused

Sometimes it is hard to believe this to be true.

If you weren’t loved enough from a very young age, this is even harder to comprehend and truly believe to the core of your being. But I promise you, it is true. When people like to joke “didn’t your mom hug you enough as a kid” it isn’t funny. Because the fallout can be, knowing you deserved more, knowing you deserve or deserved apologies, trying to be “enough” to be “loved enough”, but always falling short. But, it won’t ever be so long as you stay in that place. It cannot be about enough for another, or your mother.

Maybe this is about romantic relationships for you, (possibly as a result of your upbringing says the social worker in me… but it can just occur later in life maybe after some trauma) Either way, you keep showing up in relationships where you are not loved enough, because they are familiar, and you think this time, this time you will be enough to be loved enough so you try harder and harder…. But…..you won’t, because you are trying to be that for someone else other, than yourself.

The best part is, this can be learned. You can learn to do this!

Wherever it began… it ends with you, you can indeed find people who will love you enough. 💞
~Laura