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I lost my patience and yelled at my kids the other day.

And immediately I felt like the worst person in the world. Not because I think parents should be perfect.

I don’t.

I never wanted perfect parents.

I wanted parents who were willing to parent.

Parents who could apologize.

Parents who could take accountability.

Parents who could stop and ask themselves, “Did I handle that well?”

But when you grow up with toxic parents, every mistake feels loaded. One bad moment and suddenly you’re wondering if you’re becoming the very thing you worked so hard to escape.

Then I remembered something.

My parents weren’t worried about whether they hurt me.

I am. ❤️‍🩹

My parents weren’t losing sleep over how their actions affected their kids.

I do.

My parents weren’t trying to learn, repair, and do better.

I am.

The goal was never perfection.

The goal was awareness.

The goal was accountability.

The goal was becoming the kind of parent who can say, “I got that wrong,” and try again tomorrow.

That’s what breaking the cycle looks like.

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