Therapy Untangled

We tend to associate parenting with ➡ “Shaping my children to be what I want and expect them to be.”

This can result in many people to believe that being “accepted” by our family means that we should conceal parts of ourselves and/or pretend to be someone we’re not.

When deciding to become a parent, it is integral for us to understand that we will give birth to a unique human being that is going to develop into their own person with their unique likes, dislikes, traits, strengths and “weaknesses.”

I put the word “weaknesses” in quotes because I believe most of them to be perceptual. What you consider a weakness, could be my greatest strength.

I often see people hiding parts of themselves from their family because they are afraid that it could make someone uncomfortable, which can result in the loss of love and respect.

What’s the result?
📌 Surface-level relationships
📌 Significant family hardships
📌 Resentment
📌 Anger
📌 Struggles with identity and self-esteem
“Children aren’t ours to possess or own in any way.” (Shefali Tsabary ). When we open ourselves up to truly comprehend this, we will adapt our parenting to shape our children’s needs, rather than obliging them to fulfill ours.

Healthy parenting allows children to become their own authentic selves!

Drop a “♥️” if you agree.

When deciding to become a parent, it is integral for us to understand that we will give birth to a unique human being that is going to develop into their own person with their unique likes, dislikes, traits, strengths, and “weaknesses.”

This was one of the things that was most difficult for me to understand in my process of change.

Highly sensitive people tend to take responsibility for the feelings of others, causing them to base their actions on other’s feelings. 😔

What ends up happening?

They build a life that is based on the expectations and feelings of others and forget how they actually feel, leaving them in an uncomfortable position. 😨

Neither you nor I can be responsible for the feelings of those around us. and Understanding this is the beginning to having boundaries and peace of mind.

Remember: you can have empathy for the way others feel and still make yourself your number one priority at the same time. ♥️

Highly sensitive people tend to take responsibility for the feelings of others, causing them to base their actions on others’ feelings. 😔