Growing Change Parent Coaching

We’re often so frustrated and so fed up that we forget an important tool in our parenting tool kit. Talk about it. Yes, we can remember to talk about it.
I don’t mean telling your kids 10 times to pick up their smelly socks or saying something til you’re blue in the face.

I mean having a family meeting to talk about the current situation that you want to address.

The family meeting is an opportunity to talk about it.
An opportunity to get together, thank everyone for showing up, even at 5 years old, and to discuss the issues that need resolve. This is what we’re aiming for. A conversation modeling calmness, respect, turn taking. Everyone is heard and listened to. Your child has an opportunity to offer a solution.

“Dad and I are finding food all over the house. There’s food in your bedrooms, in the living room, in the playroom. We even found a half eaten bagel in the bathroom. Why is that happening? Who’s going share first? We’re listening.” The limit and boundary is simply and clearly stated. Food at the table. Dishes in the sink.

And they help come up with solutions and we hold them to trying it out.

The family meeting builds connection, helps families work together and builds respect and communication.

Have you tried a family meeting? Share below what your experiences were. ⬇️

It comes up quite often… a child hitting their parent. A hitting 2 year old is very different from a hitting 8 year old. They may hit for similar reasons… anger, frustration, inability to accept no for an answer. Yes, both need to learn not to hit. And it’s possible.

Read on to learn how to connect, better understand your child in that moment and what a boundary sounds like and how to teach this important skill in self regulation for both you and your child.



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Setting a boundary means creating a limit that is clear and to the point without using many words. It’s also something that we are clear about with ourselves.

Why am I setting this boundary? Is it safety? Is it a core value? Is it for quality of life for your family?

When we really lean into something, whether it’s a core value or a family rule, a boundary is a guardrail. It’s a clear, conscious intention. If a toddler writes on the walls again, it’s bye bye crayons.

“I’ll serve your dinner when all your dirty dishes are put in the dishwasher and you cleaned up after yourself.”

Dirty socks and clothes lying around the house?

“I know you want to play on your Switch. First clean up all your dirty socks, clothes, and put shoes away, then you can play for an hour. Tell me and show me it’s done.”

And we follow through calmly and consciously, with clarity and confidence.

Amidst the challenges, the struggles, the screaming and the frustration, there are moments of peace,moments of ease and connection. We can grow more moments like these, more moments of love and joy.

Pause to notice. Pause to take in those special moments. They are there, hidden in between it all. Feel the good, and let your family know how good it really does feel. They need to know.



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