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I saw a wonderful client of mine today who likes to ask me every so often, "Am I a bad person"?

And my thoughts are always this,

"What makes you think that?"

And.

"When did you start thinking that way too?

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Some of us live our lives believing that we are the worst people in the world.

Is that you out there somewhere in this world too?

As for me, I once held this belief as well.

Like my client above, this part of me felt rotten.

It felt like whatever I was doing was always wrong, otherwise fake, annoying, and I was a problem.

I hated myself with a passion back then.

Why? Good question.

And if that's you, I encourage you to ask yourself this:

"What does this part of you serve? Where did it come from too?".

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You see, this is the part of me that wanted to know WHY I didn't feel loved.

It wanted to find a reason for all this pain.

A reason as to why I was hurt by the ones who were supposed to love me.

Why I was left alone with big feelings.

Ignored.

Why I felt too much at times.

And even abandoned too.

When we are children it's not easy to make sense of the world as we do now.

Look at any baby or young child - do you see that they can be made out of bad stuff too?

Do you think they'd want to believe their parents are bad people too?

No, but yet somehow it's always easier to point inwards.

And that's just what we do.

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Unfortunately the complication over time is us walking from such a childhood into other friendships and relationships too.

A child growing up to believe it's their fault they are not loved.

Will come to believe they are the reason these relationships fail too.

A series of reinforcements as to why we are bad.

Not good.

Or at least not good enough to be loved.

Conditioned to look in and not to look outward.

Where somehow to place the blame outward feels wrong and / or selfish too.

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There is a young part of you that needs to know the truth.

There is a part of you that needs to grieve instead of blaming yourself too.

Embrace those parts of you.

You are not bad.

You are not a problem.

Just as you are, you deserve to be loved too.

Take care,
Hernping

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