Concinnity Farm

"We're not just applying a technique, we're asking a question"

An idea shared with me by my wonderful friend, mentor and colleague, Leah Astrup during a session with a horse. An idea gathered by her from the wonderful Mary Debono of Debono Moves.

We were discussing it as it pertained to bodywork but it's something I have kept tucked in the back of my mind during every engagement and interaction I have with a horse. I really love it because it really takes the imposition out of whatever it is that I am doing with a horse and replaces it with thoughtful curiosity.

It reminds me that there are often many subtleties and nuances that we can barrel right through if we're doing more than we're feeling. It reminds me to never underestimate the seemingly simple things because that is often where the most profound discoveries can be made.

More is possible when there is reciprocity...but that doesn't usually come from the approach of telling a body what to do. It comes from asking thoughtful questions about what is possible now, free of judgment. Making adjustments, asking more thoughtful questions, and expanding those possibilities together.

I think when we see people who are very good with horses, we think what we want and need to develop is their technique and skill. Of course, there is value in that well developed technique and skill...but I think what we're really drawn to is the deeper conversation that is happening, one that goes far beyond technique.

And we're all capable of having those conversations, as much as we're capable of learning to apply technique. We just have to be curious enough and be willing to shift from telling, to asking.

- Terra