Caroline Kurkcuoglu LMFT

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In my last post, we discussed the basis of attachment disorder and the possible causes in childhood. But what are the symptoms we see in adulthood? Attachment disorder can lead to a variety of traits that can affect people in their daily life.

The way a couple communicates predicts many of the outcomes of their relationship. Trust, understanding, and positive connections are formed when partners listen, acknowledge, and validate each other. On the other hand, when couples speak to each other in hurtful and negative manner, they will encounter frustration, conflict, and disconnect between each other.

The Gottman Institute () created the guideline of The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, four negative ways of interacting that are the most damaging to relationships. I incorporate these into my work with my clients because I believe that avoiding these interactions and replacing them with positive alternatives are crucial to creating healthy relationships between partners.

It’s important to note any couple at a given time can encounter the Four Horsemen appearing in their relationship. However, when they can be recognized and taken accountability for, it will lead to positive outcomes. 🤲🏼

Hello all 🌞 Today I want to share some tips and reminders about how we can manage and treat long-term anxiety. For those who suffer from chronic anxiety, it is crucial to introduce certain practices into daily life and keep these practices going. This way, we can become successful at managing our anxiety, instead of having it take over our days.

• Relaxation techniques: Knowing how to release muscle tension is very helpful. These include abdominal breathing and meditation.
• Dietary adjustments: Magnesium helps muscle tissue to relax, and a magnesium deficiency can contribute to anxiety, depression, and insomnia. Inadequate intake of vitamin B and calcium can also worsen anxiety symptoms. Make sure your daily diet includes foods such as whole grain cereals, leafy green vegetables, and low-fat dairy products.
• Learning to be assertive: Communicating your needs, wants, feelings, beliefs and opinions to others in a direct and honest way, without intentionally hurting anyone’s feelings.
• Structured problem solving: learning how to break down a problem into its different components – and then decide on a course of action – is a valuable skill that can help manage anxiety.

Traumatic experiences can be transmitted physiologically, socially, and environmentally. There are various ways parents can pass down their trauma symptoms to their children:

• Parents may relive traumatic events, become emotionally detached and numb, or even experience dissociative episodes in which they become detached from reality. These symptoms can disrupt the child’s ability to develop a reasonable sense of safety and predictability in the world.
• Parents affected by trauma may be less able to respond optimally during usual developmental crises.
• Parents suffering from PTSD may have difficulty modeling a healthy sense of independence, appropriate self-soothing mechanisms & emotional regulation, and maintaining a balanced perspective when life challenges arise.
• Parents may model catastrophic or inappropriately numbed and emotionally disconnected responses.

The key point to remember: a traumatic event doesn’t necessarily have to happen to us directly in order for us to feel its effects. 💭

Continuing our discussion on intergenerational trauma, I want to share some key information about how we can look for signs of this trauma in our lives.

Individuals have varying reactions to traumatic events and oftentimes do not realize the impact of the event. Symptoms of intergenerational trauma can vary depending on the events that families have experienced and can be physical, emotional, or behavioral.

It is important to note that sometimes symptoms of intergenerational trauma can be mistaken for other disorders. Therefore, accurate assessment and treatment of these symptoms is crucial to the healing process.

As a trauma specialist, the concept of intergenerational trauma is extremely important and valuable to me.

The idea of intergenerational trauma was first recognized around the 1960s, as psychologists began to study children & grandchildren of Holocaust survivors. Researchers observed that the effects of trauma can be transferred from one generation to the next.

Trauma can be passed down behaviorally, as a child of someone who suffers from PTSD could learn and internalize certain ways of thinking from their parents. In addition, there is evidence that trauma can alter people’s genes, and so the genetic variations could be passed down between generations, predisposing the recipients to be sensitive to traumas.

The first step to healing this kind of trauma is to understand your own triggers and symptoms; the nature of intergenerational and historical trauma means these are probably different for every person. This sort of work can be done with a mental health professional, and can lead to the beginning of a healing journey to break the trauma cycle for the coming generations. 🔄

What is burnout? A lot of us may be feeling this way and don’t know how to identify it, or how to reduce its symptoms.

The term “burnout” refers to a state of emotional, mental, and often physical exhaustion brought on by prolonged or repeated stress. Burnout is typically caused by work, but it can also be from lifestyle or personality traits.

It is important to note that burnout and stress are NOT the same. Stress involves “too much,” too many pressures that demand too much of you physically and mentally. However, stressed people can still imagine that if they can get everything under control, they will feel better. Burnout, on the other hand, is about “not enough.” Being burned out means feeling empty and mentally exhausted, with a lack of motivation and caring. People experiencing burnout often don’t see any hope of positive change in their situations.

The slides above are a “toolbox” to refer to when we notice ourselves getting to the verge of burnout.

Be well. 🌟