Rising lotus

All of this is so important!

It's not your responsibility to be in control of the lives of other people. You cannot control what others do, even when what they're doing is harmful to themselves. Enabling is done out of love. However, it stops people from being able to take responsibility for their life.

To unlearn enabling, you must learn how to set clear boundaries. Placing limits on loved ones is hard, especially when you feel that your help is necessary. You can help people but do so in ways that are not harmful to you.

Repeat After Me
I can love without enabling.
I can help in ways that don't harm me.
My mental health is essential.

It's important to listen and provide support but not at the risk of giving up your own identity and self-worth!
words: lisa olivera

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