Existential Enneagram

This is relative to the FM3 Emotions Enneagram I posted a while back. It just talks about what Envy (point 6) is and how it relates to Anger (point 8 ), and Jealousy (Point 4). I felt like sharing it.

"Envy* - It hurts that I am missing from My Own what I am entitled to as a basic right I absolutely desire - would cherish it -, and it’s unfair because I perceive others do posses it. Similar to Anger, there is a frustrated intention here. What I know, who I am, is not congruent with my own intentions (desires, aims). The distinction for anger the is something intruding on My Own that I do not want, and with envy I am missing something from My Own that I do want. They can go together. I can be angry I have to deal with This, while I am envious that I do not have That, instead. Mixed together, the bodily feeling itself becomes very similar to jealousy. Jealousy is the self-identification with the external possession, and a terror of losing any of it at all. So in envious anger, I may be identified so strongly with the entitlement I don’t have + feel the frustration at the intrusion I do have as if I’m actually losing what I identify as (which would feel like Jealousy).
This is important to explore because it makes the difference between a Type 4 pattern and a Type 6 pattern - the Type 4 “fears rejection,” while the Type 6 “fears abandonment” in Enneagram speak. But this is folly, the 4 is truly fearing the hurt & sorrow (they know all too well) that rushes in when the external possession is not affirmed as the highlight of their self-worth. This is an issue in FM2, primarily, and grief work is vital for helping the Type 4 to find self-compassion so they may develop self-acceptance. The 6 is truly fearing the sense of meaningless, purposeless (includes utility), if they cannot have the rewards (appreciation) of being good (authentic). The work for them is in FM3, and is focused on development of self-appreciation, ego, and boundary work. Its a subtle distinction, and maybe it does not matter to most people, but I care."

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