Changing Seasons Life Coaching

It is eerie to think how words can build you up or tear you down. Words can edify and exalt or utterly destroy you. The words that you speak or the words that have been spoken over you, are the foundation on which you journey through life. Take for example, a circus. Have you ever been to a circus and heard the ringmaster tell the animals not to eat the people? Have you ever heard them instruct the animals not to leave the tent? Why? The answer is the animals have been conformed. The words that have been spoken thru the years to us has shaped us into who we are; for the good or the bad. We don't have to stay trained and mastered by our past we can be transformed by the renewing or our minds; with the right words.

The wrong words not only hurt, but they leave residue and not quickly cleaned off it stains and sometimes causes bad infections and infestations. To the outside world these infections look like bad habits, poor choices, addictions, and strange behaviors. Infected persons then find a flock, as the saying goes "birds of a feather flock together".

The new crew either enable or participate. An enabler is identified as the one who do not challenge you to change. They support either physically, financially, emotionally or socially. A participant is the person who has the same habit or behavior. Both persons trauma bond in a safe no judgement zone. Their only exchange is new ways to delve deeper into their bad habits or addictions.

A person can also be addicted to un-forgiveness. Yes the euphoric feeling of being right and sticking to your point of view no matter what. Its for the principle of the matter right? Or maybe it is your Ringmaster. Yes un-forgiveness can be your Ringmaster. It can master your choices and decisions. You can end up making decisions and life choices motivated by anger. That motivation pushes you further and further into isolation with just you and your principle.

That statement reminds me of the story in the book of Exodus of Pharaoh sitting in the midst of the plagues of frogs. Exodus 8:8 Moses explained to Pharaoh that he will give him the honor of setting the time for him and his house to be rid of the frogs and Pharaoh response was "tomorrow." Moses response was, "It will be as you say."

If Pharaoh would have said today he wanted to be rid of his plague, that day the plague would have departed. However, Pharaoh had become comfortable with the plague, familiar, and feared the unknown. Just like Pharaoh we choose our plagues to remain because it is comfortable. It is familiar. We know we have this addiction we don't have to put forth any effort it is our norm. With change brings unfamiliar territory. Changing is uncomfortable. We are forced to think differently. We are challenged to exchange old habits for new ones. We are charged by our conscience when we don't get it right on the first try. Our flaws become more obvious. It is more noticeable and we have to face fact with our addiction, habit or behavior in order to change it. We fear if we face it others will know all what so carefully we hid up until this point.

So like Pharaoh I too say, "tomorrow". Tomorrow I will go on a diet. Tomorrow I will go to rehab. Tomorrow I will respect those around me. Tomorrow I will make amends with family members. Tomorrow I will assume paternity. Tomorrow I will pay my child support. Tomorrow I will call my AA counselor. Tomorrow I will get a job. Tomorrow I will further my education. Tomorrow...

Pharaoh I give you the courtesy to set the time to open your mouth to give the orders to let the people go. As long as you keep your mouth close you and your people will sit in the midst of the plagues. The infestation, infections, and residue will seep into your next generation and poison their lives. Will you rid yourself of the Ringmaster?

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