Dear Sister

You didn’t destroy me
I did that myself
You just helped me see how broken I already was

I blamed you for the anxiety, the overthinking, the spiral…… the truth is you were just the mirror

You pulled away
So I clung tighter
You needed space
So I made myself smaller
You shut down
So I got louder
You needed freedom
So I gave up my boundaries just to keep you

I thought if I could just love you harder you’d finally stay…. love isn’t meant to be forced.
And your avoidance wasn’t mine to fix

I see it clearly now….

You weren’t emotionally available
but I wasn’t emotionally safe

You ran from intimacy
and I ran from myself

You feared being engulfed
and I feared being abandoned

We were both scared
just in different directions

It took me a long time to admit this, you weren’t the reason I lost myself…. I abandoned me

Every time I begged for your attention, instead of listening to what my body was trying to tell me

Every time I made your inconsistency my personal failure

I’m not her anymore…..
The anxious girl trying to earn her place in a man’s life

I’ve done the work
I’ve sat in the grief
Felt the ache

Learned to stop performing for love

I no longer chase what hurts
I no longer stay where I’m not met

You didn’t destroy me
You cracked me open
And from the pieces, I rebuilt something sacred

A woman
Whole
Worthy
Unshakeable
Anxious no more
Rooted in self
And finally safe
not because of a man
but because of me

And I hope you’re healing too

Detachment doesn't mean I stop loving you.💔

It means I love you enough to stop fighting for a reality that isn't meant for us right now.

It means I have removed the desperate need for you to be who I want you to be, and I am finally accepting you for who you are.

I have learned that I can hold you in my heart without needing to hold onto you so tightly that I break in the process.

It’s not abandonment; it’s a quiet release.

I am choosing peace over anxiety, and I am choosing to trust that if we are meant to be, it won’t feel like I’m drowning. ❤️✨