Dr. Heather Wadeson

Today (8/8) is considered to be an astrological portal day that brings about strong emotions, unexpected events, miracles, and manifestation. For the last few days, the energy has been building. I’m doing my best to be an observer of my thoughts and emotions, and not to make impulsive decisions based on how I feel. Much easier said than done. 😂

As we set forth on 8:8, my message to you is to take note of your emotions. Be an observer. Name them and sit with them. But don’t let them take over. It’s ok to embrace change and growth. It’s a day of new energy, with limitless possibilities. Take the leap of faith. You got this.

Happy 8:8!

Our feelings change minute by minute, second by second. If you’ve practiced self observation you’ll know this.

Here’s an example:

You’ve made a really hard decision to speak a truth to someone. Right afterwards you feel terrified. Sitting alone at home, you start to feel confident. yes! I did it. About an hour later, you’re in the kitchen and you have feeling of regret or shame. “Was I too harsh?” “Why did I say it like that?” “I think I made the wrong decision.” By bedtime you’re neutral. You don’t feel great about it, but you don’t feel awful either.

Feelings change. Throughout a single day we can feel countless different things. And, just because we feel something doesn’t always mean it’s true. For example, we might feel guilty or like we’re selfish for setting a boundary. In reality, we made a healthy choice.

This is why it’s important to learn how to *observe* our emotions. How to let them come and go. How to not react to them, but instead make CONSCIOUS CHOICES in alignment without values.

When we make conscious choices in alignment with who we want to be in this world—we create self confidence.

We jump off the emotional roller coaster, the up-and downs of letting temporary feelings guide our permanent choices

I think this is quite accurate because after I read it, I felt seen! No! Damn! Is that what advice REALLY is?

As a therapist I don’t typically “give advice” unless I am asked directly or when I ask if I can offer some.

Therapy is about learning skills that will help your throughout your lifetime. Advice is situational and often depends on the person.

I included a short list of my own. If you want to call it advice, go for it! I like to see it as building awareness of healthy behaviors and boundaries.

- When everything feels out of control, remember to breathe.

- It’s not always about you, so don’t personalize.

- Communicate, communicate, communicate. Don’t expect others to mind read or know what you need. It doesn’t have to be a “confrontational” showdown. Talking about your feelings and experiences should be a normal occurrence, but many people see it as a weakness. I promise, it’s a strength.

- Learn to trust in yourself and your intuition. You and your body know what’s best for you.

What’s the best advice you have ever received? Share in the comments!

We all do this. Humans are walking projectors. We project our own experience, our framework, and our past onto the present moment.

Does this mean don’t listen to advice? No. In my view, it’s always worth listening. It widens our perception. It allows us to see things a new way. We can learn something from everything we hear— including something from the emotional reaction we have from hearing it.

Zoom out. Observe the messenger. Listen. Think about it. Reflect. Use discernment.

Take what feels right in your body. Leave what doesn’t.

When you’re paying attention, you’ll see most people are actually speaking to past versions of themselves when speaking to you

I love helping people find ways to love themselves again.

We weren’t all given the tools to know how to love ourselves. As adults, we can learn to re-parent ourselves and find the love we have always deserved. ❤️