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In my own therapy this week I came to the realization that there’s a perfectionist part of me who continually says that if I do everything right then my medical issues will resolve. If I seek the right professionals, eat the right diet (hello again eating disorder 👋), take the right meds, figure out and remove all environmental triggers, do the right spiritual work, change my beliefs about healing, THEN I’ll be cured. It’s almost as if wellness/health/diet culture has been manipulated into another form of shaming and blaming, that somehow the chronic illnesses or their lack of improvement is somehow inherently my fault. It’s interesting to see how parts of us mold and change, seemingly trying to help but really showing up as the same unhelpful and potentially destructive belief system as before.

The truth is, healing from these illnesses is quite ambiguous. They aren’t well-studied (because they are mostly in women, go figure) and didn’t develop from just one definitive place. Genetics, environment, trauma, illness, surgery, eating disorder… Who knows. What I do know, is I’m not doing anything wrong in not feeling better yet. There’s no such thing as a perfect path to healing, even though many wellness professionals want us to believe so. My work is being gentle with the part of me who wants me to feel better so badly, that she will blame me for it.

Perfectionism will never be the answer to healing.

Here a major trusted news source has reported on multiple offensive and inaccurate articles which are deeply disappointing as a former journalist, a therapist, and an activist.

When are we going to stop punishing people for their body size and start holding the healthcare system and big pharma accountable for continuing to abide by outdated standards?

Obsessing about your food, weight or body size is far worse for your health than “2 cookies”. A healthcare system that uses the BMI system which somehow shows that the majority of Americans are overweight or obese? This isn’t a people problem, it’s a systemic problem of categorizing and judging people in order to make a profit. Buy two seats if you’re “plus-size”. You’ve got to be kidding me. Who actually comfortably fits in an airline seat?

The BMI system was designed in the 1800’s by white men as a way to make generalizations about populations, not as an actual indicator of health. Here is a great article:

https://elemental.medium.com/the-bizarre-and-racist-history-of-the-bmi-7d8dc2aa33bb

Come on. Let’s do better.


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