Time Enough

Hi friends, its been a while. I didn’t mean to take so much time off from posting on here, but life’s been life and it happened. I’m still at a point with my dissertation and full-time work where doula things have to take a backseat, but I’d like to try to get back into posting educational stuff here with some regularity. If there’s anything around end of life planning of grief that you’ve been dying to know about, let me know so I can work on a post about it. Otherwise, hopefully I’ll be around here more often ❤️

I wanted to provide a life update because I’ve been more absent on here than usual (and who knew that was possible).

As most of you probably know, Time Enough has never been my full time job (even though I wish it was). So, since becoming a doula in 2019 I have also worked full time and in 2020 I started a doctoral program. I have continued to work full time and I just finished my coursework and am now fully into my dissertation phase for my doctoral program. This transition has been more stressful than I anticipated, which is why I pulled back on here (the only place I really can). I’m still figuring out what my new normal looks like in this new phase of my life, but I plan to be here in some capacity. Even though Time Enough isn’t my full time job, I love this work and I know this education is needed. I just have to figure out how this fits in with work, school, and filling my cup.

Although social media may be slow while I navigate a new normal, please feel free to contact me (probably via email would be best) if you have questions or need something ❤️

(Also, this is a picture of my mourning section/alter which includes the beautiful urns my mom bought me for Obie and Dozer along with artwork from loved ones that I cherish. Creating a space for remembrance and ritual is so powerful and I really do recommend investing in it)

Last week I was lucky enough to see some of my favorite musicians. While at the concert I had some thoughts about death positivity and how that impacts my enjoyment of these things and I fully intended on diving into that in this post.

Instead of talking about that, I want to hold space for grief. Because on Saturday, people went to Club Q in Colorado Springs to have a fun night out, just like I did last week. But 5 people were killed and 18 were injured and a community is dealing with the impacts of that violence. Last night, 6 people were killed and 4 were injured as they tried to shop at a Walmart in Chesapeake, Virginia.

I can talk about death positivity all I want, but it doesn’t change the fact that this is the world we live in and no amount of death meditation can change the fear a lot of us feel because of events like these. It doesn’t change the fact that there are people who will be missing at Thanksgiving dinner tomorrow because of violence. It doesn’t change the fact that a good death isn’t always possible because of so many things, including this kind of senseless violence.

Your grief around these events is valid. You don’t have to have been present to be impacted and it doesn’t mean what you’re feeling isn’t real. I hope you all can take time to feel and acknowledge your grief as we go into a season that is already difficult for so many ❤️