Snuggle with Sam

One of the hardest things to explain about cuddle therapy is… what to actually expect in a session.
Because the truth is - there isn’t always just one way it goes. It depends on where YOU’RE at when you come in.

Over time, I’ve noticed that new clients often come in with an idea of how things should go… and then realize it’s actually very different once they’re in the room.

Here are some of the most common ways people show up:

• “I don’t know what I want, just tell me what to do”
• Going straight into touch without saying anything (and sometimes discovering my body definitely doesn’t bend that way 😅)
• Wanting to be comfortable with touch… but also not really liking it yet
• Feeling like they need to give to me first before they can receive
• Saying “you can do this” instead of asking for what THEY actually want (this happens a LOT)
• Struggling to ask at all because they’re so used to being told no
• Only knowing one way of giving/receiving touch
• Or focusing more on how I respond rather than the cuddling itself

And none of these are “wrong.”
They’re just starting points.

This is why it’s so hard to give a clear answer to “what will my session be like?”
Because it really depends on you.
Your comfort level.
Your experiences.
What you’re ready for.

My role isn’t to make you get it “right.”

It’s to meet you where you are… and help you explore what actually feels good, safe, and supportive for you.

Sometimes that looks very different from what you expected.

And honestly? That’s usually where the growth you need happens 🤍

Sometimes my humor is like this with clients 😬 It's an acquired humor.

He hates driving. With a passion. Just bought a car for the first time in his life and now understands Boston Road Rage ™️. And as a Bostonian, I had to remind him of this very important piece while in traffic running late to his session today.

We'll have a good session when he gets here, no matter how many times he flips people off while getting here.

I’ve been doing cuddle therapy since 2015…
…and yes, I cuddle on a bed.

Before you jump to conclusions - let me explain.

When I first started, I was working out of my apartment with two roommates. My options were:
a bed
or… nothing
So the bed won.

Fast forward to now, I’ve got my own office space (since 2021 🎉), and a queen mattress came with me - just with a slightly more “professional” daybed frame upgrade.

(Although… the Pikachu blanket phase didn’t exactly scream professional and got me politely asked to keep my door closed 😅)

But here’s something interesting:
Not all cuddle therapists use a bed.

Some use:
couches
floor cushions
Thai mats
futons
big squishy beanbag-style setups

And honestly? All of them work.

But I’ve had people question the bed thing because of the assumptions that come with it.

So here’s the truth:
A bed isn’t about anything inappropriate.
It’s about comfort, support, and familiarity.
Most people have spent a huge part of their lives in a bed. Their body already knows how to relax there.

And for some of my clients, it’s not just preference - it’s necessary:
chronic pain
anxiety
trauma responses
needing space to fully relax

A couch or the floor just doesn’t work for everyone.
At the end of the day, the setup doesn’t matter.

What matters is this:
Do you feel safe?
Do you feel comfortable?
Can you actually relax into the experience?

That’s the whole point 🤍