Dear Spouse

DEAR HUSBAND...

1. If you want your wife to make love to you often, then take care of her heart. You cannot mistreat your wife and hurt her then expect great and frequent s*x

2. If you want your wife to respect you, then you have to do respectable and admirable things. You cannot dishonour her and shame her then expect her to excuse your gross misbehavior with a blanket respect. She can't submit to torture

3. If you want your wife to feel safe with you and open up to you, then you have to stop emotionally and physically abusing her. You cannot instil fear and wonder why she protects herself from you

4. If you want your wife to enjoy intimacy with you, then you have to maintain oral and body hygiene. You cannot expect your wife to enjoy kissing you and playing with your p***s yet you smell of sweat, you don't shower, don't brush your teeth and smell of miraa, w**d or alcohol

5. If you want your wife to stop complaining, then you need to stop repeating the same wrongs. She complains because she has to call you out when you do wrong since she believes you can be better

6. If you want your wife to be financially transparent with you and to stop making financial decisions behind your back, then you need to start showing financial responsibility. As long as you keep being reckless, she will save and invest without your knowledge to protect her future and that of the children

7. If you want your wife to brag about you to people, then do things that make her proud. She cannot pretend that you are a great man yet you are not

8. If you want your wife to stop nagging and being moody, then you need to make time to spend with her and make her feel special. A woman nags and becomes grumpy when she feels neglected. A loved up wife glows

9. If you want your wife to stop fighting your friends, then you need to stop surrounding yourself with the wrong friends and allowing your friends to pull you away from your family. You wife is just protecting you

10. If you want your wife to be proud to be your wife, then you have to do things that make her say "Yes" to you daily. Don't expect her to be satisfied with the title of wife just because she wears your ring, has a marriage certificate or has your child/children

11. If you want your wife to help you and support you, then you need to have a vision and share it with her. A woman can only be a helper to a man who knows where he is going and gives her room to build with him

He got married this weekend... His mother called me in the morning of the wedding on Friday to tell me the shoes I bought her are so comfortable she will wear them all day... She ended the call with I love you Makoti. His sister also wore a dress made by my tailor😢 she said it's for a graduation party when we went to take measurements.... Today the bride was delivered to my Mother in law's house😂 oh no sorry his mother's house.
He is coming back to joburg tomorrow or at least that's what the plan was when he left on Thursday.... We speak once or twice every day and I still haven't brought myself to ask him if he still insists my dreams and visions could be speaking in riddles when I kept seeing him marrying another woman.
Edit:We are not married but have been dating for a couple of years and his whole family knows me.
❤️🕯️

DEAR MARRIED MEN,

åNobody will tell you this but I will;
If you want to go far in life, love your wife, take good care of her, make her happy and her prayers will open doors for you.

åRemember when things go down healthwise or financially for you, only your wife will feed you and will be there for you. Most of your friends and side chicks will abandon you!

åAnd lastly, that lady you think is better than your wife, it's because she is not living with you. Bro, invest in your woman!
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Class dismissed 🥂

Philippians 4:6-7

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.