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One of the quieter losses survivors carry is the loss of who they were before. The person who assumed things would work out. The one who laughed easily, worried less, moved through the world with a lightness that now feels like it belonged to someone else.

That person may not fully return. Many survivors come to understand this not as a defeat, but as a truth they learn to make peace with.

What may be possible instead is something different: wholeness that holds what has happened, a self that has been permanently changed and is still, somehow, complete. Not the same. Not unbroken in the original way. But whole.

Julia O’Brien wrote this two years after her loss. It may be exactly what someone needs to hear today.

Find others who understand at allianceofhope.org/forum

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Iets wat ek so pas ondervind het, en dit het nogal vir 'n paar oomblikke lelik geknyp. Die persoon beskuldig my van "gaslighting" omdat ek dit waag om my lampie van hoop en heling te swaai. Dit is jammer dat iemand sy rousmart vir jare lank soos 'n kruis en 'n skild dra, en kwaad word omdat hy nie kan hoor hoeveel ligter sy lewe daarsonder kan wees nie.

"When the student is ready, the teacher will appear." Dit wil my voorkom asof ek nie vandag sy teacher was nie, en moontlik nooit sal wees nie.

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