Soulflight

Some brand new offerings... tried and tested on some volunteers who all resonated and connected with the messages!

I think it’s safe to say that we’ve all struggled through tough circumstances at some point in our lives. I think it’s also safe to say that one person’s struggle is sometimes another person’s cakewalk. There are so many factors that influence how people cope with a particular obstacle.

All too often I’ve seen people judging another person’s way of navigating their struggle without stopping to realise that they are judging from a position of privilege that the other person doesn’t have access to. People seem to forget that you shouldn’t cast judgement until you’ve walked a mile in someone’s shoes. And before anyone jumps on their soapbox and starts denying their privilege, let’s remember that privilege doesn’t mean you live in a mansion or get everything for nothing without having to work your ass off for it. Sometimes it’s the little things… knowing where your next meal is coming from, knowing that there will be enough money in your bank account on pay day to cover your rent, knowing that you have someone you can call to help you if you hit a snag, or having access to decent medical care.

I’ve found that “just be kind” message being hammered home to me time and again over the past few days. We have no idea what’s going on under the surface and so often the people who put on a brave face, a big smile and lend a helping hand are the ones who are drowning.

The thing with any kind of trauma or struggle is that it’s usually not just one thing. It’s one thing that leads to a whole lot of other issues coming to the surface. So a person might battle with the death of a loved one but then also have to deal with the expenses related to it or the guilt they might feel at the last conversation they had with this person or the pressure being put on them by relatives to put on a good funeral show. You see what I’m getting at? It’s those struggles that are sometimes kept very quiet because they’re clouded in shame or embarrassment.

One thing I’ve learned is that people don’t talk about the depths of their pain. They may tell you about something on the surface and it may leave you wondering at their inability to handle what life has thrown at them… after all, you might have dealt with something similar so you know what it’s like. It’s the depths that make struggles unique, not the struggles themselves.

So if you’re tempted to judge or advise, please don’t. Please rather ask how you can help and if you’re not in a position to help then just hold space without judgement. Let love guide you at all times.

May you all be blessed beyond measure.

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