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We have to be adults about life - We can not expect everything to be comfortable.



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The past few days social media has been flooded about the news of a woman who was m*rdered by her boyfriend because she didnt want to be with him anymore and everyone is out in arms for the man of which I am too because I dont believe you can force someone to be with you anymore even after they have made it clear to you ukuthi no I dont want you around me. If I had had an opportunity to meet him I would have given him my peace of mind or is it piece? I condemn his actions with the strongest of might these actions deserves.

Anyway Im not here to talk much about him. I am here to talk about the woman and her family.

As this man narrated before he took his life....the woman had indeed told him she doesn't want to be with him anymore and there is nothing wrong with that...but she goes on to accept his gifts and money from him and then gets a PO against him after that...he goes to her parents with groceries and they accept those even after knowing that their daughter and ex fiancee are not in good books with each other. Same goes with sister with the airtime she got from him of which I understand this part because she was asked to talk to the sister on his behalf because she didnt want to talk to him hence the need for airtime - if they were not staying together.

Why did they accept his gifts? Why did she accept the car? Why would they take ANYTHING from him that he brings to them knowing that she doesn't want him anymore? WHY? And the fact that she even got a PO for him after accepting the car leaves a sour taste in my mouth. Its just off.

The acceptance of these things is what gave this man hope and reason to hold on and reason to keep following her around and believing that things will work out at some point or that she will forgive him. She was working she should have been content with that and that with enough financial discipline she could buy her own car at some point....it doesn't matter how long it would have taken her.

As people there is need to stop using each other. Stop the greed. Stop this need to live a life we can't afford. Stop leading people on when you know you're not fully interested in them or a future with them it is wrong and is the reason for such horrible things happening in our society(One of them). And I believe it could have been avoided had both of them took a step back and thought things through and then used their heads for decisions not their hearts.

As men you need to know and understand that your money doesnt always work in matters of the heart. As women we need to do away with this mentality of get rich quick or living flashy and expensive lives at the expense of men. There are people who dont know how to handle rejection and that poses a very dangerous situation for parties involved.

Was Tawanda wrong for his actions? YES very wrong I even believe this was premeditated m*rder because who goes to speak /beg to their girlfriend carrying a g*n?? And if he wanted to get her full attention why didn't he shoot in the air ke?

Was Samantha wrong as well? YES she was very wrong...you dont give people mixed signals worse someone whom you have noticed that he has a violent nature /abusive. Her acceptance of his gifts after she told him i dont want to be with you anymore was a catalyst for this mess

Was her family wrong? YES. Abantu asifundeni ukuthi nxa singela asila and samkele izimo zethu I know it not easy and its very painful ukuswela but that vulnerability puts us in possibilities of tragedies like this.

And Tawanda you're a coward for taking the easy way out!



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